Is out of balance REALLY out of balance?

I mean, what is real balance anyway? How is it supposed to be defined?

Merriam-Webster says: the ability to move or to remain in a position without losing control or falling

also; mental and emotional steadiness.

Okay, so that’s a good starting point. Balance is a state of equilibrium, with emphasis on the DON’T FALL part, right?

I think of balance and think of that scene in Eat, Pray, Love (which is so nicely shown in the film, and sometimes harder to picture in the book). Ketut shows Liz a piece of paper with a simple grid, just two lines in the shape of an equal cross. And he describes living a balanced life – between heaven and earth. “Not too much God, not too much selfish. Otherwise, life too crazy. You lose balance, you lose power.”

And then of course, Liz falls in love and she thinks she’s all out of balance and because she hasn’t meditated for eighteen hours that day she’s living a horrible life and will never regain focus again. And then he teaches her: “Sometimes losing balance for love is part of living balanced life.”

If you’re a subscriber to The Daily Love, you may have seen the most recent episode of DailyLoveTV, wherein Mastin answers an awesome question that’s really been hitting home with me. And (I didn’t realize this until this very second typing) was kind of the inspiration for beginning this post. If you haven’t watched it, check it out…

Now that you’ve watched that, you may understand where this is going.

It’s no secret that I’m a little crazy. Especially when it comes to my relationships (or lack of, for the most part). Because when I fall, I fall HARD. You can talk to me for 15 minutes and I’m already imagining our third date…until your girlfriend comes back from the bathroom and gives me the stink eye. Regardless, I’m known to get in too deep and then still somehow be surprised when I’m heartbroken because I cared the most. As much as I’ve been told to – I’ve never allowed myself to shut that part of me down. It does knock me off balance. I get swept up in checking my phone every ten minutes. I forget to pray. I eat a bag of potato chips and queso when he doesn’t text me back. I wash those down with a few shots of bourbon. I mess up my balance.

And I usually mentally beat myself up for it. But I guess that’s probably not the right way to do things, huh? Balance. So I messed it up. After something like that, I don’t want to over-compensate by becoming a recluse and only leaving the house to pick up kombucha and incense. I think we have to take note of how we feel, and realize that it’s 100% okay to go a little crazy for another person. Especially if their face makes you want to vomit (in the BEST way possible). Because it’s a lesson. It’s a lesson about ourselves more than anything. We learn what gets us off balance. So that doesn’t mean we stop caring or pull our emotions out of it to keep ourselves in check, it just means we recognize that sometimes falling head over heels is perfectly balanced for right now.

Have a BEAUTIFUL day xx Happy Spring!

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My favorite people and Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday

I’m sharing this with anyone who has the will to watch because it’s free wisdom. If you already watch Super Soul Sunday, you know what it’s about. if you don’t, this is a great little intro to give you a clue. It’s a wonderful program created by OWN to open our eyes and hearts every Sunday morning so we can live with just a little more love and God in our lives. Today three of my favorite people were the featured guests and let me tell you, I was in tears a few times during the episode.

It’s honestly so refreshing to know that so many people care about the connection we can all have to our truest self. I spent so long denying it and trying to alter myself on the outside to fit in when I really needed to be accepting myself inside and helping the world to align with myself by changing my own thoughts and beliefs. I couldn’t have done that without the outstanding guidance of Gabrielle Bernstein. And thanks to her, I was able to discover other amazing thinkers and speakers, such as the two with her on Super Soul Sunday today, Mastin Kipp and Marie Forleo – both people who have since given me amazing amounts of wisdom in my daily life, among others.

The episode today really brought me back to that place of peace again as I collected my thoughts surrounding the topics that were raised. I hope it does the same for you.

 

Super Soul Sunday 11/18