Censorship: I don’t fucking get it.

Let me start off by saying, as a writer, I don’t exactly believe in censorship to the fullest extent. I do understand that certain words and ideas may be too mature for young folks to understand and I appreciate trying to keep things appropriate. So I rate this blog post PG-14 for the one F Bomb that I drop at the end. 

MTV recently aired Mean Girls. I caught the end of it last weekend, but my younger cousin had never seen it (he’s 17 and a guy, but he figured maybe he’d want to know the cultural context or something) so we recorded it. So last night while we were eating I threw it on from the DVR and he half-watched it and I recited all the lines. 

Of course, every now and then I would say a line that didn’t exist on the television aired version.

Now, I’m not big on censorship, but I understand it. I’ve been known to have a huge potty mouth and a certain F-word is my favorite word in the English language. But I understand that certain words just aren’t appropriate. My mother wouldn’t let me watch MTV until I was 13 or 14, even though I secretly watched it at friends’ houses long before that. 

The interesting thing was, MTV had a very strange idea of what words were censor-worthy.

Here are the words that were NOT censored out:





ass(hole – the ‘hole’ in fact was censored out)


and here are the words that WERE, in fact, censored out:







Okay, now let’s review. I am aware that the words ‘bitch’ and ‘ass’ have other meanings. Yes a bitch is a female dog, and an ass is a donkey. However, that was NOT the way they were being used in the movie. They were being used as negative words for people. Girls, specifically. 

The words ‘gay’ and ‘homosexual’ however, WERE being used under their appropriate context. Damien is, in fact, gay. He likes boys. And he’s quite flamboyant (which is often another aspect of being gay. Yet, they couldn’t be aired as a part of the movie. 

I understand the censoring of “dyke” as it is usually a derogatory term. However, censoring ‘gay’ and NOT censoring ‘lesbian’? I’m sorry but is that maybe…sexist? Like it’s okay to use a word that means two girls because some people think it’s “hot” or something? And “effing”? ARE YOU SERIOUS? It’s the connotation of a curse word, but that word is not said. 

I suppose my biggest complaint is still that the word “homosexual” was censored out. It is a technical term. It is a term we learn in health class and science class and is not even remotely “naughty” or “dirty”. And you censoring that out is sending the WRONG message to people. That it’s okay to use the word bitch and slut and whore but don’t you dare use the word homosexual in regular conversation because you’ll get burned alive. 

Dear, MTV, I invite you to explain your reasoning in the censoring choices of this film. And if it isn’t your fault, I invite whoever the heck it was to explain because I, frankly, don’t fucking get it. 

Followup to Lessons in BabyGap: Why Kids Are WAY Smarter Than Adults…

These are some of the most famous quotes from kids. You’ve seen the chain letters, where wise children talk about what it means to be in love. Just remember, they aren’t blinded by years of heartache, rotten ideas and falsehoods. Their minds are true.

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” –Terri, age 4

“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day.” — Noelle, age 7

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.” –Billy, age 4

“Spend most of your time loving instead of going to work.” – Tom, age 7

“It’s love if they order one of those desserts that are on fire. They like to order those because it’s just like how their hearts are…on fire.” – Christine, age 9

“I think you’re supposed to get shot with an arrow or something, but the rest of it isn’t supposed to be so painful.” – Harlen, age 8

Lessons In BabyGap

I wrote this post, and then lost it. It was beautiful and fantastic and the fact that I lost it makes me want to CRY. But I guess it happened for a reason, right? So here we go, round two.

If you don’t know, I work at the Gap. Usually, in BabyGap. And I absolutely adore it.

Long story short (after losing my first copy of this I’m way too lazy to write out the ENTIRE post again, apologies), the children always bring me back to earth about what is real and beautiful in life. Almost daily, a mother or father or couple will come in with a young child, either an infant or a little one under the age of 7 or 8. And every now and then he or she will be a real gem.

It’s rare that I ever find a truly shy child. Most of the time, they come in and smile at me, and we immediately get to playing games while their parent(s) shop. They try to hide, I pretend that I can’t find them. One time, a grandmother had to return to her car and left her grandson in my care. I was working in GapKids that day. And he stood with me at the register and we talked. I asked him what he wanted for Christmas, he told me about what he was buying for his big sister. It was as if we were old friends or cousins.

Peek-a-boo is the most basic children’s game and it never fails to entertain. I used to wonder why, but I no longer do. It’s quite simple. Children can’t fathom that a person can simply hide. They don’t understand that someone can mask a part of themselves from someone. They believe in the goodness and truth of a human being. So the idea that you haven’t just disappeared and you’re, in fact, being false, doesn’t occur to them. And it isn’t because they aren’t educated, it’s because they aren’t tainted by the falsehoods of the world around them. They’re quite pure in that way and they are what we all should strive to be more like.

My favorite experience, by far was this next one. I was working in BabyGap, but I crossed over to Kids’ for a moment. Two girls around the age of 7 or 8 were leaving with their mother. And saying goodbye to everyone they passed. They saw me come in and said “Bye pretty girl!” I said goodbye. One shouted “I love you!” and the other said “I love you too!”

And their mother just laughed, maybe a little embarrassed. But I was touched. And they probably did love me. And I assured them I loved them too. Because of course I do. Why can’t we say I love you to everyone we pass by? Why?

Have a beautiful day, xx.

Beware, adding some Gabby B to your life MAY CAUSE MIRACLES!

Hey all!

It’s been a crazy couple days since I got back to my home base of Providence. I was visiting family in Connecticut and attending Gabby’s book tour launch date and then I was working – it’s been a little intense. But I’m back and I’m settling in again and getting ready for school to start.

If you don’t know, I took last semester off from school so this month I’m officially a first semester senior in college. Woohoo! Let’s just say that this is the perfect time for me to have Gabby’s 40 day guidebook by my side. In the past, school has caused me tons of stress, depression and the feeling I just want to give up. But I’m not letting that get to me this year. I’ve got an amazing team behind me in my family and friends, as well as my teachers both educational and spiritual. It’s gonna be a rockin’ year.

And to kick it off, I got to meet my brilliant guru, Gabrielle Bernstein as she started her book tour for May Cause Miracles!

It was a wonderful talk, filled with an overview of the book, some hilarious insights and nuggets of wisdom, and a fully loaded Q&A session. There were so many beautiful people at this event, and I did have to hold back tears several times as brave men and women shared their stories and gratitude. I made connections, connected with old friends and felt like a LIVE WIRE as I was leaving. It was exactly where I was meant to be, and I felt it deep inside to my core.

I’ve taken some of Gabby’s classes online via livestream, and I can say that the energy from those is amazing. But knowing that her energy is RIGHT THERE during a meditation is the most brilliant feeling. And I know I’ll be able to recreate that as I go through the 40 days of May Cause Miracles.

Gabby really is a magnetic soul. And when I spoke with her, I could have sworn to you that I have known her my entire life. I was speaking to my sister.

That being said (since I’ll never be able to stop gabbing about Gabby!), I have started my own journey with May Cause Miracles. Today is only day two, but I already have super things to say. The book is literally filled with SUBTLE shifts. It’s nothing major. It’s about 5 minutes of your time in the morning (less if you read fast) and maybe 10-20 at night (more if you so choose). Your affirmation sticks with you throughout the day.  Yesterday was simply witnessing fear and today is simply being willing to see love instead. It’s that easy.

Yet I already feel MIRACULOUS change coursing through me.

I’ll be in touch, until then…

Have a beautiful day, xx.

Coming Soon…

I was fortunate enough last night to attend the kick off appearance on Gabby Bernstein’s May Cause Miracles book tour! It was a brilliant evening filled with love and beautiful words. 

I’ll continue to blog as I start my own MCM journey this Sunday and keep you all in the loop with the amazing work I’m about to embark on thanks to this beautiful light worker I have come to call my guru and spiritual pal. 

Before I start, however, I will bring you a review of the event itself, and how excited I am to start the work coming my way.

Happy 2013, everyone!

Have a beautiful day, xx.